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How To Make Friends As An Adult

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Use these easy-to-follow dating tips to get any man. Click Here: http://www.gettheguy.co.uk/advice *** How many people do you have in the contact list of your phone who you could call up tonight to go out with? If you're anything like I was 18 months ago, it wouldn't be such a favourable number. Today I want to get vulnerable and come out with something we don't often talk about... *It's really hard to make new friends as an adult.* Website: http://howtogettheguy.com Facebook: https://facebook.com/CoachMatthewHussey Twitter: https://twitter.com/matthewhussey Subscribe: http://www.youtube.com/user/gettheguyteam
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Kerry Foster (14 hours ago)
Yes Matthew is right about meeting new friends through old ones. I'm going to two parties next week and I guarantee to meet new people there. Don't be afraid to say your name and talk to strangers, have a quick chat....and move on. Never overstay your welcome by staying for too long. If they like you they will come back to you later....
Jeffry Davy (2 days ago)
Thinking about our common mortality and how little difference there is between humans and colonies of bacteria makes me feel better about having almost no friends.
Dr. leen sh (4 days ago)
👍👍👍
Black Inspiration7 (7 days ago)
This video is very helpful
Jack Mercer (8 days ago)
fact of the matter is.. socalled "friends" are friend-emies, they born that way
Danzel Kurniawan (11 days ago)
I love the content you create!! I guess I can start being more social by commenting on YouTube videos. Because I shouldn't feel awkward commenting on something haha
jackie s (17 days ago)
Church, sports clubs, work..... All good places to start 😊
William Adams (18 days ago)
In order to have a friend, you must BE one. Define friendship. Knocking over a liquor store is not friendship. Going to church togeather, that's a start. Using, buying, selling drugs....no that's not friendship. Pick up a shovel and help your neighborhood and neighbors plant trees...yes, that's friendship. Try the library. ..intellect counts for a lot....even if it's shared silence. If your seeking a hookup....that's disgusting. ...you said friend. Not handsome or pretty enough...who you, or them? Again, shame on you. If your that shallow go sit in a flower pot and water yourself, cause your roots are bare! Redefine "you" if something is wrong. Start with asking GOD, "what's wrong with ME"? If it's too much effort to put something like effort into life, then you'll take nothing out of it. The helping hand we all need starts at the end of our own arm....but can reach around the world when exercised!
Karla Heath (20 days ago)
😍 the comment about sex in city demeaning women!!
LUCKY bhai (22 days ago)
Im 22 year old...but i dont have girlfriend till now...
Leo Korn (24 days ago)
When i look back than i don´t get it what exactly was wrong with me. There are other people which get visits by their friends at home, they get calls, invitations, make plans for vacations. At the moment, i´m able to live without depression oder medicine because i try to not think about what i didn´t experience with other people. I´m focusing on myself and try to be mentally stable. But when i think about the fact, that i don´t have friends and no girlfriend, almost nobody cares about me, it is really hard to take. It is my luck, that i´m very strong and also childish and selfconfident too, so i can have good days with myself but months going by without any call.....
Steven M (25 days ago)
What if you have no where to start due to a past of social anxiety? How do you start that initial friendship?
Tommy Sg (26 days ago)
I'm 27 male, have no friends
Eddie (1 month ago)
Why do you want to do something stupid and pathetic like making friend for? People are fake and not to be trusted... End of story.
saphira chase (1 month ago)
"Then when we become an adult we almost feel shame because we feel that we should have made our lifelong friends already."
Gabriela Sofia (1 month ago)
Find same-interest activities: spiritual groups, hiking, dance, music, and even yoga. Hahaha
Makeup TihVuhShik (1 month ago)
Yeah so I moved from Poland to UK ... made many friends but in the end from 20ppl only one once in 2 month is able to go for a evening pint 🤦🏼‍♀️ at least have more for lunch lol
WarLead (1 month ago)
Don't mind me. Just alone, on my bed, googling "how do I make friends" :'(
Javier Silva (1 month ago)
I’m the intellectual from my group. Sometimes, i have to tone it down cause I can get intense.. but that’s cause I’m really having a good time. Sigh..
Tem Cornish (1 month ago)
Needed this!!!😄😄thank you
nunya bisnass (1 month ago)
The last person to call me their friend, i shut down pretty hard because A, we only work together. B, they would shut me down when i would try to engage in the conversation they started with me, and C, they had a lot of friends i really didn't like.
jack shepard (1 month ago)
Anybody in NKY looking for a new friend? I don't have any and have always been the lone wolf, sleep and work is the daily. Knowing that you shouldn't live to just work even though I do is depressing. I'm not religious at all and thought going to church just to meet people would be a good idea. Y'all think so?
People money (1 month ago)
People are untrustworthy and life is bullshit! It's over before it even begins! You blink Ur eyes and Ur old! It goes fast so just roll with it. People are overated
moog Dome (1 month ago)
It's not easy to know what to say, or approach strangers. If you are sat near someone. You don't have to be a great conversationist,just be yourself and talk, ''I love your hair, isn't the weather terrible?, have you seen the news,? love that coat, do you know where such and such a place is ?,ect.Just non formal chat. either this, or go home lonely. They may want to talk, they may not. in my experiance, almost everyone wants to, you just have to make them talk, without shining a lamp in their face and interigating them, humor can go a long way. hope everyone finds what they are looking for.There are a lot of people outhere who would be grateful for a chat, a lot of lonely people too.
moog Dome (1 month ago)
I go out every weekday, I talk to lots of people, old and younger, although I have what I call,''Associates', I have no close friends. I sit in cafes and get into a conversation, sometimes, initiated by myself, but other times, it's others. This guy is right, don't be too fuzzy, you choose who want to keep close. Yes I've been hurt by people, but I don't build walls anymore, I'm too lonely. There are many people who would enjoy a conversation while having a coffee,. Just pass the time of day, light conversation, I find most people very friendly, and also interesting. Show a natural interest, ask them theirs, and they'll never shut up.Go to the same place people will recognize you, and get to know you. You never know who will walk in. Maybe they may be a future friend. You have to make a move or sit there lonely. If you do find a friend, they'll have other friends too, and your circle of friends may grow. Good luck.
Ronda Freeman (1 month ago)
You are absolutely right. I don't have friends either. I get so lonely.
Leo Korn (1 month ago)
It is so hard to stay in contact with people you know because nobody is really interested to be the active part. Making new friends is impossible for me, everything and everybody is so focused on themselves and not open for contacts to new people.
Daisy Jansen (1 month ago)
Can you please make more video like this in the future? PLEASE. I think what you said it's extremely important. Before trying to find a girlfriend/boyfriend, we should have friends and learn how to communicate in a social group.
aduhaiya (1 month ago)
What about if we give the commitment to them, show appreciation to them but in the end, we got nothing in return... What I mean is, we taking initiative to get to know about them but we didn't get the same thing from them...
Shreyanka Thejaswi (2 months ago)
THANK YOU! I was feeling so fucking lonely and sad today!! and felt like I was the only one who felt like it and everyone else had friends except me. My so called "best freind" who I've known since 1st grade also doesnt seem to care and Im so sad. But thank you! Idk! Im sorry for the outburst!
Kevin Davis (2 months ago)
Amen very well said bro.
Robert Maxa (2 months ago)
Yup, not having friends does suck. No one to hang out with, no one to talk to about personal issues, a sounding board. It's hard to solve your own problems, talking to yourself. I can completely understand how people socially regress.
TechyMarines (2 months ago)
I know this sounds sad. But I literally have no freinds or social life in the city I live in. This video's will hopefully help me
Me! (2 months ago)
So my small list of current friends are all new moms..... all I’m invited to anymore is 2nd birthday parties with all the mommies and their darling husbands. And that’s if I’m lucky.
Proudtobeme (2 months ago)
I gotta say I really love your accent!!
General Videos (2 months ago)
Adults cannot because they become materialistic and arrogant.
Gavin Boothe (2 months ago)
You should make a channel and program for guys too. :)
Hylss (2 months ago)
This reminded me of Louie's "Miami" episode. :D
Linda (2 months ago)
Did he shape his brows?
Teddo Ichiban (2 months ago)
Okay so four years ago, I think this could have worked with how one could interact with others. But I think NOW these four things are the opposite traits of everyone else. In other words, what do you do when you're surrounded by people who: 1. Are flackey, untrustworthy, and want to just stay home. 2. Do NOT ever initiate going out with anyone besides the people they already know. 3. Do not contribute or share because they don't do the first two and therefore have no venue to open up and share. 4. ARE stingy and picky about who they will open up and share with or go out with or invite into their inner circles
Pam England (2 months ago)
I always make work friends. When I stopped working I wasn’t around those people. Then I moved & had a seasonal Job that was with people half my age, not friend type of deal. Being older is really Lonely. My life long friends are moved away & even rarely contacted because I’m not a social media devotee.
Raver69 (2 months ago)
To be honest it was easy in my 20s as I was alwasy out a night, now at 37 I cant be fuked dragging ass through crowds of drunks
Gavin Boothe (2 months ago)
Watching this video, thinking “oh man, all this is great advice!” Then realizing at the end this guys channel and this video was geared for women. 😞. Haha. Just kidding though. I think this information is no respect or of gender. Can’t wait to try some of this stuff out.
Zamzam Gurey (2 months ago)
Hi Mathew, I would like to add me to ur group, thanks.
Free Speech (2 months ago)
I lived in latin nations and not difficult at all to make friends; over there people are very friendly, you make friends with ease and literally know the entire neighborhood. Ever since I came to America, it's been mission impossible. Here people are not interested at all. This guy on the video says "we're indifferent when we are invited". Sorry but here in America getting invited is literally a miracle. Getting invited is a real treat, so I never ever turn down an invitation. I came to America in 1978 so do not know what it was like before, but the US I have always known is a not sociable at all nation, specially when in the old country we were always invited every single week end or we invited. Never like this in the US. I suspect that being that the early settlers were anglo saxons, Scandinavian and germanic peoples, they marked the social character of America as an unsociable nation. ( A German Argentine moved to Germany and told us she could not make friends over there). In the latin nations social life is an ongoing part of the culture, not in the US. My cousin told me to text people once in a while, engage in chatting once in a while, then after several months of this invite them. I've made up all kind of invitations: Go out for coffee, go to the beach, to my birthday, but people here are just not interested. Even the immigrants from traditionally sociable nations become unsociable. Truly sad.
levner brown (3 months ago)
I find it hard making friends, among my peers I am the one of the most successful, and our ways of thinking are different, time and time again, it seems our friendship is based on what I am ready to give them and in my our of need no one seems to be there. It got to the point that they Don't even talk to me. And it's not like I am lonely but I feel kind of like it's unnatural not to have friends. I know people we chat a lot but none I can call friends at the moment that are my age. Those that I am close with are grown-ups and are 20 years older than me.
britcoms81 (3 months ago)
Some of us just don't want friends. LOL
marina leven (3 months ago)
thank you
Mahmoud Michael Ajaj (3 months ago)
God bless u amen
IEienI (3 months ago)
I don't want a lot of friends, I don't like keeping up with different bodies, I would like a few close ones. That's should be a option lol.
sol walker (3 months ago)
I was homeschooled till halfway through secondary school I've never had a friend in twenty years on this earth I have zero social skills I don't know how to even approach someone I just feel like I'm going to be alone for the rest of my life
Kaczmarek Kamil (3 months ago)
Your best frien is your brain and your healht nothing else
LEE SOLID (3 months ago)
It's TRUE... I dont have any good friends. Facebook friends doesn't count😄
Tabitha Crouse (3 months ago)
I'm a freshman in college and making friends here has been so so hard. No one talks in class or smiles here, ever. And I can't relate to my old high school friends anymore because they were all either younger than me, or didn't go to college so the level of maturity is just not there. It's so lonely because I don't know any way to even start. There aren't opportunities which makes it really difficult and I'm struggling
Mrs. W (3 months ago)
In my 20s and younger, I used to have a number of friends. Not many but at least a good number. It’s hard as hell in your 30s as a parent and working. On one hand you feel isolated because you and your spouse are never invited anywhere anymore. Your single friends don’t want to invite you because you have three toddlers and you’ve turned them down in the past due to sick kids. Your married friends shun you also because ThEY are busy and have ish going on. I want more friends, I don’t drink coffee, I don’t drink alcohol , I don’t eat junk food, I’m spiritual but not religious so I don’t do the church thing, also I am a fitness and health fanatic so I am automatically annoying to most people. Especially the ones who want to eat pizza and fast food. I have no problem with it. I just don’t eat those things. 😥😥 I can’t connect with Mom friends in groups because I can’t bond over wine or alcohol. I’m awkward as fuck. Great at my job but terrible at socializing. Even when I find mom groups, I work a 12 hour job from home with my kids so I’m super busy during the day and can’t meet for stroller walks. Plus when I finally meet other busy mom friends, we hang out once or twice, I invited both times. And the third time they flake on me. Must be something I’m doing. Unfortunately, I just don’t have the time to try to impress anyone. I just want to meet people like me. 😩😩😩 At this point, I’ve given up. Luckily thank God I have a wonderful husband. He’s my best friend. And I love our kids. That’s how we spend our lives. I am resigned to my situation. When it’s meant to happen it will happen. Someday I will make friends again.
Troy Dube' (3 months ago)
I made it two years clean. Lost everything. Got sent to rehab across state. Stayed. Got a job, an apartment, a car, and even a bank account. I literally use to fantasize a total stranger would see me and assume i was just an "average" guy and i made it. I think the next step is making friends, and after 3 years of hell this is by FAR the scariest part.
Teencat (3 months ago)
"know your brand" i think im the type of person that is curious and loves being in intellectual conversations. But I don't get invited into groups because I'm better 1-on-1 than in a group. I want to change that. How do I do that?
Christopher Shreiner (3 months ago)
Frankly, I'm tired of inviting to be turned down or canceled on CONSISTENTLY at the last minute. Canceling plans is worse than a polite "no thank you". I could've made plans to do something productive alone.
I know this video is a few years old but its still worth a try... CAN I BECOME FRIENDS WITH SOMEONE WHO KNOWS ANIME AND KPOP, OR YOU MAY NOT KNOW THESE BUT BE WILLING TO BECOME FRIENDS WITH ME ANYWAY...I want friends...
Omg, hello um I’m so sorry for only replying right now, I didn’t think someone would respond....I don’t really use facebook but I can speak on snapchat if you don’t mind speaking to me, I’m a cool decent person too :)
Hi wassup... yeah I use to love anime... If you wanna be friends with me let me know and I can give you my name and you can add me on facebook... i'm a cool decent guy, I will wait for your reply
alexis adreson (4 months ago)
I just stopped making any friends on my own when i was 13.Does'nt mean i dont have any friends but mostly they picked me.And i wonder how easy it is for them to make friends with whoever they want.This leaves me at the mercy of others.
Sam Green (4 months ago)
These are great ideas but if you have no friends who the hell are you getting excited about when you get asked to drinks or who the hell are you inviting on facebook to drinks??
Lori Wolfcat (4 months ago)
That would be funny if Matt Didn’t follow his own brother. 😹
Cait Macleodxx (4 months ago)
Wow, very true
1LaOriental (4 months ago)
Good advice. The problem is more insidious, though . When it comes to women it becomes more about jealousy and competition. I have experienced this constantly throughout my life I am a very youthful and vibrant 59 yo. Quite accomplished, from Latin America and am currently building a small business. I am involved with dance and music and have even coached a few women on relationships-something I would love to pursue more in depth. I am alone and currently have no friends at all. I've had women who tell me what a great friend I am; that I am the only one who understands them, etc, etc. Then they just drop out of my life and when I reach out they do not respond. There is a dirty little secret amongst women. Jealousy and competition! It is poison. I was raised by a radical feminist mother and oh yes, she loved it when a man kissed her hand or opened the door for her. She always wore makeup. She was incredibly smart and cultured, dare I say feminine? She taught me the concept of sisterhood and not falling into the trap of cattiness with other women. I thought I was protected with that awareness. But I was dead wrong. It is sad, indeed that women can be like this. We need each other. When women are good, they are unstoppable. Ladies, we need each other to bond and raise our feminine energy! Regina Tomashauer has some great books on this. Also, famed psychologist, Phyllis Chesler has a book called "Women's Inhumanity To Women ". A very eye opening book. Perhaps this is too big a subject for a YT video? I would love to hear some of your thoughts, Matthew. What do you think?
Love Life (4 months ago)
You mean how to be a contributing member of society/an attractive friend.
Logan Wood (4 months ago)
Think about people outside of LA and highly populated areas
pearl sky (5 months ago)
I wish I had real genuine friends, just 2 or 3.
SEAM (5 months ago)
I have no friends & i just watch netflix all time .
Washma Anwar (5 months ago)
Literally came here from a sex and the city episode lol
Muzik Myke (5 months ago)
Watching this in 2018. Still good stuff
Lisa Loveskittycats (5 months ago)
Excellent video!
robert rainford (5 months ago)
Here is the best advice and I suggest you all take note of this and people that are in relationships it’s a really good idea to listen to this too. I like the guys video just adding my own thoughts. Stop allowing your friends to slip away from your grasp and vice versa and for people who are in relationships stop allowing your partner to prevent you from seeing your friends and stand up for yourself. Guys who are usually in relationships with women generally don’t have a social life because there spouses control them like puppets. As for gay couples I can’t really say much about them mainly because gay couples seem to actually allow there spouses to get out.
Korina ki (5 months ago)
Man...you're so not the right person to talk about that!
Madiha Asad (5 months ago)
excellent topic. more important than the issues considered important. Not everyone is looking for a "girl" or a "boy"... some are looking for humans to socialize with, in the best ways possible.
MissMahouKuro (5 months ago)
My problem with making friends or keeping friends as a adult is mostly everyone is extremely busy bc either demanding jobs or have kids. That or when they do have free time it’s spent on their gf or gf and or even on long time friends leaving newer friends in the dust. Another disadvantage is when people get older they simply don’t wanna go out or do anything anymore. Whether they just tired or simply too lazy now.
OrangeOrange (5 months ago)
🖕 I have no friends "_"
Claire 34221 (5 months ago)
When someone reaches out to me I pull away because I dont want to get used to having someone in my life and then lose um.
Dimitris Fotinos (5 months ago)
Can anyone be my friend :0 Im aesthetic kunt
Obito (5 months ago)
Whenever I am in a conversation with someone especially girls I run out of things to say and it usually makes me come off as not interested in talking with them
Samo Zaidan (5 months ago)
I want to have new friends😙
Zina LIANG (5 months ago)
Stop being picky is not easy for a picky people and it requires a lot of practices
C C (5 months ago)
thanks
Rachel Goodman (5 months ago)
You're the sweetest. I just moved to LA, so your story clicked for me.
Flann sixtyseven (5 months ago)
i am so picky, rather be alone than talk to anyone, as an introverted that is so exhausting. still dont know how to find those rare special connections. searching for my whole life. and i am over 50 now.
Raymond Chang (5 months ago)
I think going to Meetup is a good place to start meeting people you don't know and starting hobbies that you would be interested in.
Jackson Vittda (6 months ago)
What if I want people to do stuff and they say no and they still don’t invite me places this almost happens with everyone I meet
Jane Doe (6 months ago)
Jackson Vittda I have the same thing with females, first they are like a stalker and when I contact them they are all a sudden cold. So at first it looks like I have made new friends but it fades as fast as it came. Guess these people have mental issues.
Mike Miller (6 months ago)
Hating sports keeps me from getting along with most men. I do not show it. But I cannot watch sports or go to games. I always meet someone and it’s cool at first. But it becomes a need situation. I had a new neighbor who had kids my age. We would hang out and go to breakfast often. We really did not have much in common. I did some things for him like help him out with his car or house repairs. He would always make plans with me to always change them. I finally got the hint when he would not return my texts or at a later time. It really broke my heart. I did nothing to piss him off and say anything negative. My wife blames me for all of her friends not inviting us to events. But it’s not my fault I have nothing in common with them or they get hurt feelings over stupid shit. My best friend me now are my wife and kids and extended family.
Pan Holo (6 months ago)
Find a random stranger and hold on to their leg until they agree to be your friend
LarryCook333 (6 months ago)
Spot on
cabellero1120 (6 months ago)
Making friends in mid 20s is hard? Try making new friends at 40!! Especially if you dont have kids or are unmarried!!
cabellero1120 (6 months ago)
If they have a bf or gf They probably wont want to step out with you.... If they are: Married Have kids have family obligations If they're divorced they will look for another date/partner Or probably will want to spend time with grandkids..if older. its difficult but not impossible.
Danh Nguyen (6 months ago)
society doesnt want you to have friends. commercially its more profitable to make you buy sugar then borrow sugar.
Golsa Ak (6 months ago)
I always had my circle aroude me and i kindda was sick of them , when i started my colloge i much rather to be alone for a while and have my full time for myself and enjoy my life alone (i dont know why-_-)and that was the begining of my problem now i want to have those circles but not only i cant find any cool one to fit in i cant even find one person to hang out with :(
prizvolix (6 months ago)
I am this type of guy who is very sincere to the point of a mild autism. I have learnt to hold it in most of the time. Also I see right through people's guard. You know, some people pretend to be happy for a party but need a shoulder to cry on. There is no way I can play along to that. So this straightforwardness alienates people because they react to it as to the invasion of privacy. I have met few people who are very sincere too. Most of them I am in contact with now. I have moved to another country and made no friends. Don't even ask about girls. They run from me.
Jason Khan (6 months ago)
Matthew. Would you be my friend?
Amanda Watson (6 months ago)
I have friends but I want more friends that don’t treat me wrong sometimes
Zoe Pierce (6 months ago)
As soon as I was vulnerable to my best friend of three years she stopped talking to me and found new friends. I just want the same thing and move on.
Jacob Staten (6 months ago)
My wife and I really need friends.lol
Aritul (7 months ago)
Very helpful video.
Wanda Diaz-Mariani (7 months ago)
I think saying Sex in the city demeans women is an uneducated comment to make. 👹They didn't just talk about shoes. I am huge fan of you, Matthew. 😘But before there was a Matthew Hussey, we had sex and the city. It showed different issues for women in relationships, work, friendship, the do's and don'ts. And empowered Women... it didn't demean them.

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