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5 Surprising Reasons He Won’t Commit to You (Yet) (Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy)

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►► Get 10 years of growth in just 5 days. Learn how → http://www.MatthewHusseyRetreat.com ▼ Don’t Miss Out! Subscribe to my YouTube channel now. I post new dating advice for women every Sunday. ▼ I think it’s time I finally talked honestly about this. For years now, I’ve read comments asking the question: “Matt, are some guys just not ready for commitment? Why? What’s holding him back? Will he change?” As a woman, this can be so annoying. It can even seem downright unfair. You meet an amazing guy, you can tell he’s really into you, and yet he gives you the “I just want to have fun” speech. Yes, it sucks. But I believe knowledge is power - and understanding why men behave this way will help make it so much easier to walk away from situations where he’s never going to change his mind. So here is the real truth about why he won’t commit... "Land Called Fantasy" by Ziv Moran "Afterglow" by Be Still the Earth atlist.io ►► Deep down, you know there’s something missing in your love life, your career, or your personal life. GOOD NEWS - I have a proven method to transform your life in just 5 short days with me → http://www.MatthewHusseyRetreat.com ►► FREE download: “9 Texts to Get Any Man” → http://www.9texts.com ►► FREE download: “5 Compliments to Get Him Addicted to You” → http://www.SayThisToHim.com ▼ Get My Latest Dating Tips and Connect With Me… ▼ Blog → http://www.gettheguy.co.uk/blog/ Facebook → https://facebook.com/CoachMatthewHussey Twitter → https://twitter.com/matthewhussey
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Sarah Jane (18 hours ago)
He could also have a dismissive avoidant attachment style
Denise Flores (9 days ago)
That #5. 😢
Shreeja Chattopadhyay (21 days ago)
Matthew needs to really do some work at Hollywood. Like don't you ladies agree with me? Holy shit he's handsome.
Carolin Schäfer (23 days ago)
I don't know, but in another video, you say that there's the possibility of meeting the right guy at the wrong time. That this can happen. Did I get this wrong?
FreeLy (26 days ago)
Love you Matthew Hussey for creating these video for us, for being with us all these years. 😚💟💖⚘
sanchi ohri (27 days ago)
What if the guy i like is career focused and give this the only reason to be apart ??? Should i wait for him ??
Meike Rieger (1 month ago)
How to get a Life or respect if there is little to no support from your family, if you are totally alone?
Natalie Lewis (1 month ago)
Matthew you are a loveable legend.
Isa Diaz (1 month ago)
Thank you, 😘!
Sheena Jacosalem (1 month ago)
I've been watching his videos for a while now and i just realized he looks like Jesus.
SexyLady Mamita (1 month ago)
Hes my man still married that's wy he wont commit to you.
SexyLady Mamita (1 month ago)
WONT COMMIT TO YOU NOW FOR TALKIKING CRAP ABOUT HIS BABYGIRL HIS MOTHER. JUST CUZ YOUR MOM IS DEAD AS A DOOR NA 6 FEET UNDER WHERE SHE BELONGS AT. YOU NEED TO TO DUMP THE GIRL ASAP SO WE CAN RENEW OUR VOWS.
vintagedesigner (1 month ago)
I love your videos so much, I watched every single video religiously. I memorized, applied the content to the extent that rewatching your old videos reminds me of my own experiences and how many times you saved me from making bad decisions. God bless you
Jeanette Medina (1 month ago)
A Bond girl 😂😂 all true facts tho 😔😔
Chareta Canady (2 months ago)
So much intensity in the video. Matthew you are so good looking. Keeps me watching!
jabbard gilstrap (1 month ago)
What country are you from ?
Joyce Oliveira (2 months ago)
I think this is his best video!!
Anthony Brendle (2 months ago)
I think I’m the only guy that watches these.
Sharmaine Rural (2 months ago)
Just what i needed to hear. Thanks Matthew!
Daniela I (2 months ago)
Gold
Bad timing lol that was funny
fernandasupercat (2 months ago)
Does anyone plsss know how much is the retreat? ??!
Maia Chew (2 months ago)
Correct. He was not 100% sure about me, it was a transition period in life for both of us (bad timing) and according to him, I didn't show enough hints that I like him? Yeah but anyway it ended :)
BestistaDay EvER! (2 months ago)
I’m wasting away 14yrs with this guy. So thank you for this eye opening message
Julia Prohaska (3 months ago)
It's not really the wrong time, just the wrong place.. One country border and a few hundred kilometers away.
Alma shatri (3 months ago)
The problem is that school doesn't teach you certain basic things of life. We learn about heliocentrism and geocentrisn but not also about dickocentrism. A life of such a spinning rotation is dizzying and debilitating. No wonder you have so many views and a career out of this lol
Krystal Jones (3 months ago)
I totally agree with you on this Matthew. I keep finding men who can’t commit because of their issues. But I’m not going to settle for a guy who’s not 100% sure about me, I’m worth the 100% all in guy. So until then I will keep investing in myself worth for myself and developing my passion for life. This was a great video, thanks again!
TcFW97TCM (3 months ago)
Is there a this kinda guy but for friendships? All mine left. How does one friendship
bitu ghiwala (3 months ago)
Great video
Junjie Dou (3 months ago)
Omg the 5th one is golden!
nnichols rac (3 months ago)
How to ask a guy if his going to commit ?
Bina Walburn (3 months ago)
THE first Bond was actually married for a few weeks. His wife was murdered. Nobody looks into the history of 007.
Ghastly Jenkins (3 months ago)
If he doesn't want to commit, you haven't done the work. Take responsibility and improve yourself.
Josepi Limperatore (3 months ago)
Freedom and independence is more valuable than what women can bring to the table after they've ridden the casual sex carousel into their 30s and are backed by the state who will ruin his life through divorce.
June H (3 months ago)
What about "the dude" from the Big Lebowsky? Stupid movie with poor make role models
SeattleGal (4 months ago)
#3 and #4. He wants to travel the world and fuck as many women as possible. His explanation, I’ve worked hard in life to get where I am and my part of the path in my future does not involve a “traditional” relationship. He’s 47. 🤦🏻‍♀️
Timi Kärkkäinen (4 months ago)
women are not perfect thats very important reason - its not all about guys - most of women have too many flaws that you could date that
Jennifer Thompson (4 months ago)
Thank you
Bee Kay (4 months ago)
Matthew, I'm RELISTENING to this again, BECAUSE I NEEDED SOME SUPPORTIVE WORDS FOR ME HAVING DONE STH OF A WHAT YOU CALL HIGH-STANDARD-WOMAN AND IT HELPS SO MUCH HEARING THESE WORDS. THANK YOU FOR YOUR INCREDIBLY GREAT SUPPORT OFFERED TO ALL OF US, MOSTLY WOMEN :-)
scott sanger (4 months ago)
1) HES SMART. 2) doesnt want to lose 1/2 his stuff 3) doesnt care what you do or say 4) puts his career first and will never jeopardize it for you. 5) MEN do the best when they like you, not love you.
Keshia Robertson (4 months ago)
I need a longterm relationship
bhavika madgaonkar (4 months ago)
What if he is confused?
Madel Capote (4 months ago)
What to do if someone actually likes you? And you want to take your relationship to a whole new story??
mandybrian025 (4 months ago)
I trust you, M H
freddie robinson (4 months ago)
https://bit.ly/2FOSXZf?-besttt-way-to-makeee-him-fall-in-loveeee
Danni Liu (4 months ago)
I just ended a "relationship" because of just this. What a nice confirmation. Right guy at the wrong time is still the wrong guy. And not seeing one's self worth, and believing in the perfect life and marriage is detrimental.
Jess McNutt (4 months ago)
So if you allow a man to walk over you or lower your standards but you really like the guy, then how can you make him realise that you’re not going to take anymore of his bullshit? Please ☺️ thank you x
Tia Thomas (4 months ago)
Interstellar is that movie.
Lilmama Taurus (5 months ago)
Mariah carey just came out with a song called GTFO go listen to it and if that dont change your damn prspctv than stay with him dont complain or get upset and deal with it and take it otherwise be a woman KNOW YOUR DAMN WORTH AND LEEEEEEEAVE!!!!!!! Simple! Damn why you females gotta cry over somone who dont love you enogh too commit ?? 😂😂😂😂😂
Gao Claire (5 months ago)
Damn , I am gonna watch this every night until I really apply them in my life without much depression ...
gabby luna (5 months ago)
I felt this on a spiritual level. He doesn’t deserve me. Thank you for letting me see my self worth 🙌🏼
Wiktoria (5 months ago)
Thanks
Betty Hall (5 months ago)
Sounds like don’t you dare request a discount for MH retreat lol
Priyanka Bhadange (5 months ago)
Wow🤗
shah maya (5 months ago)
you are realy amazing matt😊😊😊
Nagytika (5 months ago)
then why is this the first time you made a video out of this?
dulcemex (5 months ago)
Matt sounds so angry 😦
Taghrid Abu Shahla (5 months ago)
On point.. guess it's time to break up 😁😁
Tanja Leigh (5 months ago)
10 yrs?! he's only 31, he knew something the rest of the world didn't by 21? I don't know. I would like to know how he got into this
Jessica Norman (5 months ago)
I needed this! Powerful and you are amazing!
Veronika Lah (5 months ago)
I completely agree with the 5th reason. We wonder and dissect why somebody doesn't want us.. when if we had the chance to choose we probably wouldn't choose ourselves either.
K8VKH (5 months ago)
hehe i love that clip with young bob odenkirk
Ancap2112 (5 months ago)
Are we talking "commitment" as in marriage, living together, a serious long-term relationship, or just being exclusive? Each of these have pretty different dynamics and standards. And you missed a critical point: if he is not 100% sure about you, why is it? Is it because you are really not compatible, or because of something you do and he has not figured you out entirely yet? It takes a pretty high level of trust and certainty about someone for you to commit to that person, even if things are going great there can be plenty of factors that make you second guess whether your partner is really right for you. Try to know these factors and work then out instead of just assuming it's all on the other person.
Sumi D (5 months ago)
ur amazing..thankx lot
Carol Laskey (5 months ago)
I've been with my boyfriend for 10 years and he still won't move in with me. His excuse; he says he likes his space. Am I stupid to accept this? ..Probably. I wish I could ask Matthew personally what he thinks or what I should do. Also we have never gone on vacation together...but every year he goes away for a week to visit his cousins in the U..S. I have asked him if I can go along. His answer: he is going to be busy and I will be bored. So .......
LADY AYSHLEY (6 months ago)
Please someone should tell me what's the name of the series/movie at 1:05
Tammy McMaster (6 months ago)
Number 5 is on point!
Snowy Frost (6 months ago)
But what if I'm the one with the bad timing?
Sarah Colenso (6 months ago)
💖 So that's why it fell through.💔 My self-worth naturally wouldn't settle for less. 💖 I'm'a wait for a man that loves me for the beautiful mess I am as a whole, not a few nice features they like at the time.
Sarah Calixte (6 months ago)
Why so many women have such low self-esteem? I don’t get it. I used to be like that a year ago, but aren’t these women tired of those kind of men. We’re not animals, I get it, but we can at least learn from them. No female in the jungle will accept a loser, why should we? If you have no personalities to sell a man work on yourself. A bird is not waiting for a mate to build her nest. She knows her duty. Know your duty as a woman. We choose. Not men. Do you want to bring havoc in the world or harmony. I want a peaceful world. A loving world. And it starts with us. We have power. You can change any men if you want. You can make any men commit if you want. If you bring value to the table. Know your worth. He will cherish you. If he doesn’t walk away. He’s a loser. Someone who’s three feet from a diamond mine and give up, he’s a loser. He should have went all the way. We’re so impatient. I’m tired of seeing children committing suicide, being abused—it’s not faire. Where is our compassion. You want to know the truth how to get a man commit beat his mother personalities’ in a positive way. I have said too much.
Joanna Dziokan (6 months ago)
What about people who sell themselves well but later are full of broken promises?
Marissa Faust (6 months ago)
So I have a question on the “Bro Code”. There’s a guy you like right away but he has a girlfriend so you move on and end up having a thing with someone else for almost a year but don’t date them. And the two guys become super close friends. And after the “relationship” has ended on both parties. The first guy you liked ends up making a move on you and you go with it but then he says “ Don’t tell anyone , I don’t want drama with his friend and ex girlfriend” what do you do especially if it happens again. And he makes it a point to tell you again not to tell anyone?? Basically everyone is in the same circle of knowing each other.
trilliann (6 months ago)
This is painful to watch xD
Isabelle Sirois (6 months ago)
Wow 🖤
Erika Rico (6 months ago)
Thank you for your insights.
Dram n Jam (6 months ago)
Why have unauthorised payments been taken from my credit card!! Ladies do NOT give these people credit card details - it's a SCAM.
Daniel Varela (6 months ago)
I find the video misleading as it appears as if the problem relies on the lack of commitment from the guy and not on the lack of ability from the girl to lock him. There are exceptions, but generally if a guy can't get a girl into bed, he's the problem. If a girl can't get a guy into commitment, she's the problem. The evidence is that there usually is another guy who will be able to get that girl who won't have sex, to have sex, and there ususally is a girl who can get that guy who won't commit, to commit. If you can't get the guy you want to commit it means you need to either A) lower the bar or B) become more attractive. For a girl is harder to become more attractive as the base of your attractiveness relies on your genetics (anyone telling you otherwise is selling you fairy tales). So the sooner you get real, the better it will be for you. Drop the bar and get a less successful guy. If you don't do it and keep aiming at guys who are out of your league, you are harming yourself because you may try to lower the bar when your beauty has declined (e.g. 35 years old) beyond the bar that you could have actually had reached if you had decided to lower it sooner (25 years old). This might be an ugly truth but you must see the beauty in you handling the ugliness of this truth.
sherry kao (6 months ago)
I've been married for 14 years, I cannot agree with you more!
andee andee (6 months ago)
Matthew.. Do you have experience in couples who are veterans with ptsd. We live separately now. We both tend to push each other away also depend on each others help.return from Iraq he changed. But I suffer from MST. But somehow we make it work. I want him to open up and love me and talk to me just the time he’s feels ok. I’m a sitting duck waiting for the time he offereing me a cracker then the cost is clear.#14yrs Am I the veteran trying to be there again for him or do I do it because I care.are we dependents on each other can’t move on? But my love for him is strong. I’ve learn through group that these guy do this a lot to there gf or wives. So I assume it his ptsd and wait it out up to weeks to a good month. We have a child that goes back and forth and at time I stay over the night for family night. I don’t care if we get married or live together for now. I’m afraid of after the whole being a mother stop one day than what happens. So have you dealt with this before. Not normal for normal people but I’m ok with it for now
heyReneque (6 months ago)
How many websites has this guy got
andre silva (6 months ago)
Simple: He understant that today's women are not capable or worthy of being a wife. They were not rise to be into long term realtionshiops and they have no skills to make a realtionship work.They have been with so many guys that by the time they hit the wall and want to so call seattle down, they can be truly truted! Their promiscuous behaviosr is a turn off for a rational man that will take her for what most women can provide nowadays - Sexual expereince! After over a decade of being with dozens of guys, one night stands , threesomes, cheating on their partners and so on , when women get old they want the man to just accepeted and dont take her past in consideration! Plus the fact that the Marriage laws and family court system is a rigged deal to benefiated women and children!
andre silva (4 months ago)
Yes sir! But tell that for the 80% of men who are simps +scott sanger
scott sanger (4 months ago)
,MEN truly do not need women for anything..........sorry ladies, but you are a bunch of immature children.........YOU cant even name 1 benefit for a man to marry you, yet your life revolves around trying to manipulate and decieve MEN..
Molly4lilly Theslayer (6 months ago)
I just gonna stay single all my life
chris codling (5 months ago)
Sarahmay05 Theslayer every single person has said that statement
Gayetri Nayar (6 months ago)
Matthew where tf do you get such amazing analogies from
Gayetri Nayar (6 months ago)
And that Ladies and Gentlemen, is how you sell.
Paris 87 (6 months ago)
You are the best! I wish I had found this video in 2012. I came across to Matthew hussey in 2015 and have been following his videos since.
Prototype 176708 (6 months ago)
Guys who don’t commit will want a girl one day and This girl plays the field ruthlessly... bye felicio
lexiconlover (6 months ago)
😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😣😢😢😢😢
quinn (6 months ago)
Matthew thank you so much I was so confused Living in constant fear everyday
Irish Mae Tungpalan (6 months ago)
It all boils down to me not setting healthy boundaries and yeah, not being true to my standards. Hurts a lot but now I know better. For real. I need to be serious with my standards and myself before the right guy sees that and chooses me.
Doug Joseph (6 months ago)
"Commitment" means everything she wants, and he gets all the costs and all the risks. It's a raw deal.
Kuky Tang (6 months ago)
I loved the last point... believe in our genuine self value, taking ourselves seriously.
Andre Cameron (6 months ago)
I think the (1) reason is more true than you thinks
NPC C (7 months ago)
Yawn. I can't believe people buy into this rubbish.
Stephany Cañas Lara (7 months ago)
Thank you, you´re amazing
Yana Moore (7 months ago)
Thank you.
apehemata (7 months ago)
This man has no sense of reality. Very bad advice.
حنان الشيف (7 months ago)
2nd time
Dæmonette (7 months ago)
We've been texting and now he stopped. He said he enjoyed our talks but I know the reality is that he has so so many options both irl and on instagram. There's just no way to compete with those women, I'm beautiful but I'm not a model. There's no use to be smart,open, sincere and genuine it will never get you The guy.
Mallerlyn (7 months ago)
this makes a lot of sense
Grace Kornelis (7 months ago)
your videos are inspirig so much. but..... https://www.girlfriend.com.au/matthew-hussey-cheated-on-camila-cabello what u said or tells us is different from ur attitude
Grace Kornelis (7 months ago)
IS THIS MATTHEW THAT DUMPED/CHEATED ON CAMILA?😂

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