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Things to consider when dating/marrying a Korean guy

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This is quite a long video because there is a lot to talk about. We've noticed there are a lot more western girl and Korean guy couples in the past few years. Sophie and I will talk more in depth about some things later on. For now here is a bunch of things to think about when you are dating a Korean guy. A lot of these things possibly relate to other inter-cultural relationships as well. http://www.youtube.com/user/MyKoreanHusband Don't forget to check out the daily comics on the blog. http://www.mykoreanhusband.com/ Bonus Channel: http://www.youtube.com/user/mykoreanhusbandbonus Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MyKoreanHusband His Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MrHughGwon Twitter: https://twitter.com/MyKoreanHusband Tumblr: http://mykoreanhusband.tumblr.com/ Instagram: http://instagram.com/mykoreanhusband Mr Gwon Instagram: http://instagram.com/mkhmrgwon
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Mihoo Jessi (22 days ago)
I'm dating a korean guy as well, it's getting a little bit deep, we started to talk 7 months, he started to fall in love first, his english is perfect, so 3 months ago we started to real date, he said wanna do everything with me, but wen I starts say things a little bit deep, he starts to say "let's enjoy this time don't worry to much" wtf that's mean? My feelings have been growing so much and he is truly amazing, I never wanted enter at relationship at moment cuz I came out of a bad relationship... But I'm so scared to be the one who always ends broken :( (Sorry my english)
Shaderite Matobit (4 months ago)
i been like... binge watching these kind of videos lol, i am attracted to east asian guys, but like, i have never even met one. RIP Me.
Takhe Opi (8 months ago)
Love your video. Thanks a lot for sharing us your experiences about international marriage.
Kathryn T (8 months ago)
I Really enjoyed this video!
ShanaJahsintaWalters (8 months ago)
I found your website years ago. I had no idea you had a YouTube channel too.
LifeofLahani (10 months ago)
I've been talking to this Korean guy and will actually be going on a short holiday with him. So I'm nervous and excited. This videos really helped me calm my nerves and get my head straight about dating then man seriously
Ho Seong Ahn (1 year ago)
The Korea is a Very Conservative society...! You explain the Korea and Korean guys Very Well...! Thank you...!
Wendy Van Nguyen (1 year ago)
Me and my KR husband, OMG, I asked him to be my boyfriend on our first date, 2 weeks after I proposed him to marry me, and 3 months after our proposal our simple wedding was hold in Australia. We are going to celebrate 2nd year of my marriage life. I have never regretted for what I have done, he was the very right one for me and only can stand me, haha!
Bettina Puskás (1 year ago)
It's so fcking annoying that the parents tell you what to do even if you in your 30. What the fck? You can respect them without they "sitting in your neck" ... if u know what i mean. They have no rights to tell their kids what they should do after they already earned they own stuff. Pff... 😕 This stuff is very annoying.
bunidastudio (1 year ago)
"korean drama is fancy" - finally i can sleep in peace
Chae (1 year ago)
Get ready for me Do Kyungsoo!
박수열 (1 year ago)
꽤 오래전에 올라온 클립 보게 됬는데 사려깊은 모습들이 보이네요. 나머지는 약간의 어려움 혹은 약간의 extra fun이 있을수도 있지만 결국은 사려깊은 성숙한 사람이라면 결국 좋은 결실 맺을거에요. 다른 문화 백그라운드를 가진 사람들이 사랑해서 한 가족이 되는건 정말 멋진 일입니다.
Mae Kim (1 year ago)
I married Kim Taehyung and he doesn't even know it.
승인호 (1 year ago)
can someone give some examples of cultural différences? It would be helpful to know so i can be prepared haha. :)
승인호 (1 year ago)
Also.. I'm vegan but i already know it's nearly impossible to be vegan in korea so i'll probably just be vegetarian when i move there.. I recently tried to eat a piece of meat but it's so disgusting i throw up, i'm not even kidding (it is mostly the idea of eating meat)
Leah Tran (1 year ago)
https://leahkimtran.wixsite.com/portfolio My boyfriend is from Seoul and I am from Australia. I met him when I was doing an exchange in Seoul. Now we're in a long distance relationship now because he's still in the army and I'm back at uni. I've loved watching your videos, especially when I miss my bf a lot
HimaJen (1 year ago)
Oh my god thank you so much. I just started talking to a Korean guy last week and I am a bit shocked by how fast he is moving. The calls and texts are CONSTANT where as I was lucky if my ex (Japanese) called me once a month. It's good to have reassurance that it's just a culture difference!
Tideoflung (1 year ago)
Great point and insight! Keep up the good work :D
KingdomHCosplay (1 year ago)
Thank you for your personal thoughts, this really helped. I am dating a man directly from Korea. He speaks fairly good English. We haven't said that we are boyfriend and girlfriend but I will wait and see(I think we may be). I personally try to learn Korean culture as much as possible and I love Korean food. In public he shows a lot of affection, he holds my hand every moment(really he refuses to let go), opens every single door for me, and is fine kissing in public. I know very little Korean but I desire to learn his language, I have a hard time learning new languages so I have to put in a lot of hard work. Thank you for your words.
Sandra (1 year ago)
This is really cute and I hope you two stay together, good luck with learning Korean :)
im on dating korean site :3 im looking for korean future husband but for now i want to have korean boyfriend :3 im single for now haha i love koreans <3
Plasmina V (2 years ago)
people kill me saying things are racist. They're probably the ones who are racist
cheeseesung (2 years ago)
my korean bf broke up with me and he became a different person all of a sudden. he even trashtalk me and its really offensive. tho i am quite sure what really happen why he acted that way. ㅠㅠ he's from 홍성 and i am from philippines
ShanaJahsintaWalters (8 months ago)
Sorry to hear this.
Pamela V (2 years ago)
do you live in korea?
Orangie Kins (2 years ago)
Thank you. Just started dating a Korean and the commitment has been discussed right away. Kinda freaked me out. Im Native American and hes Korean/American White.
Lee Terry (2 years ago)
This is cool
Elana Sims (2 years ago)
OMG this video is so comforting. On the subject of communicating; my boyfriend is from 대구, we met while he was in Australia (we are doing a LDR right now) his English is quite good but he doesn't express his feelings well and if he is stressed or going through a difficult time he doesn't readily share his concerns, is Hugh the same? I find it causes a lot of fights because I don't know or realize he has some problems in his life in Korea. Also, when I first started dating him one of my friends said to me "He is pretty cute for an Asian" 😅😑
MKH (2 years ago)
+Elana Sims Hugh is pretty good at expressing his feelings, but he is naturally open and we've been married for several years. But there is a problem, not just in Korea either, with men not opening up about feelings when they are stressed or having a hard time. Particularly in patriarchal societies where it can be seen as weak to show those emotions. They might open up with male friends while drunk, but not with their wife or girlfriend, which can be really damaging to a relationship. You might be need to be really clear that you need that communication in those times not only for his own mental health, but for your relationship.
Yuri Rivera (2 years ago)
i want to know if you can give me tips on what to do/ and what they expect when your boyfriend introduces you to his family! please help!!
Alyxandra Arnold (2 years ago)
I love watching your channel!
Jamless Jimin (2 years ago)
I really need to watch this, bc I'm going to date mg bias soon!!😂😂😂😂
Loveonia 정국 (10 months ago)
Okay, let's face it, we're not going to date them. The chances of it happening is negative
Ellie (1 year ago)
😑😑😑
elena kk (1 year ago)
Jamless Jimin dont be delusional
d chxvz (2 years ago)
omg 😂 thats why i came here too!
Amber K (2 years ago)
I want to date a Korean guy, but I'm worried about racial stuff happening to me. For example, his family would reject me because I'm American, if he think's I'm too easy, and/or he wouldn't want marriage. I know every guy is different, but I'm worried that I'll find a guy like this. :/
Bettina Puskás (1 year ago)
HanamiDango Good luck to you.
moon flower (1 year ago)
Isa better worrie about his mother! I have been ther and done that.
moon flower (1 year ago)
HanamiDango better worry about his mother.
Amber K (2 years ago)
I hope everything works out for you! Really. If you ever need anyone to talk to, please feel free to chat with me! I mean, I'm pretty good at comforting people and listening to them lol 
Isa (2 years ago)
+HanamiDango I can understand you. My boyfriend is korean and we are pretty seriouse about our relationship and our future together. I've seen his mother just one time in my life on facetime and we just said "hi" to each other. I feel worried and exciting about going to korea with him, cause I'm afraid his family doesn't like me. I don't think they want him to break up with me but I'm just afraid that they will not like me even if I try very hard. My boyfriend is also worried, but he keeps telling me that he's an adult and he can decide for himself... but I know how important the family in korea is.... :)
Your videos actually confirm my ideas of what it'd be like dating a Korean guy from Korea. I know family is huge importance to them ^^ thanks for being an amazing person and helping us understand <3
Noorhan Mahroof (1 year ago)
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Hiroko J (2 years ago)
For the food part, do you think most koreans would be willing to become vegan after they've been educated etc? I know food is crucial and I worry a lot that I might not be understood living there but it'll probably be passed off as a foreigner thing, but if I were to get into a relationship how much do you think they would be willing to change in this aspect taking into consideration the korean men you already know? and their parents' opinion as well?
Sandra (1 year ago)
"educated" wow
Hiroko J (2 years ago)
+MyKoreanHusband oh I'm so sorry if my comment gave of that impression, it's not my intention at all! Thanks for your input it's really interesting! xx
MKH (2 years ago)
+Hiroko J Well, what I find a little bit worrying is that you are already deciding how you want to change someone and their family before even starting a relationship. That's not the right attitude for a healthy relationship. There are vegetarians and vegans in Korea, many expats are, and Buddhists are, so temple food is vegan or vegetarian. While you may need to explain what you eat to a Korean family, expecting others to become vegan is the wrong attitude to have and will probably be seen as very offensive.
MinjiLindsey (2 years ago)
when you talked about how language isn't as important aa you think it is... I agree to a point, but I think it also comes down to if you really have a lot of "nunchi/눈치" or not. If you don't read others well, read between the lines, it may be a bit harder for you to deal with a relationship between 2 different languages. Use your Nunchi! Hey, that should be a new Korean YouTube channel! haha
Strawberry Kitty (2 years ago)
I have a few questions about food that your mother in law cooks, what happens if they fix you food before knowing if your allergic to something and what do you do if you don't like something? I would be scared to tell them if I don't like something they made.
MKH (2 years ago)
+Nabi Kpop Make sure they know what things you are allergic to first. If you don't like something, just don't eat much of it. Luckily with Korean food there are many dishes for one meal usually and you can eat the other things instead. You don't need to say that you don't like it, but you can show that you prefer other dishes instead.
Isabella1680 (3 years ago)
I actually never understood this dating phase... for me, coming from Europe, it always was gf/bf or not...
Many Different Things (6 months ago)
Today, at least in the United States there are strong trends where casual dating with multiple people takes place and somehow this competition purges the weaker elements towards an end game and invisible pecking order.....it wasn't always this way and with loose sex and the huge surge in STD's....such social structures can quickly turn into disease factories... However, this sort of behavior takes place almost exclusively among the lower classes while the higher income strata as observed through scientific research have remained conservative and follow these "old fashioned" functions where connection is exclusive and monogamy the order of the day....off the heels of friendship turning to serious interest. On average, less casual sex is usually in line with someone who has higher education levels and or better upbringing. There are cesspit zones or areas dotted within the social terrain and being able to quickly gauge and avoid such things requires healthy observation skills...unless one wants to splash around in such murky pools.
Anna Shatsky (10 months ago)
same for me (I grew up in Russia)
Iantha MArtinez (10 months ago)
I guess I’m weird. I also believed that you weren’t boyfriend/girlfriend unless asked and accepted. Until then your just seeing each other or hanging out but not exclusive.
Megan (1 year ago)
In Australia it's called tuning lol
Claudia Nhiri (1 year ago)
Isabella1680 same here. anything else is just a friendship.
Katherine-Alice Werner (3 years ago)
Thank you for being vulnerable & sharing your experience.
ミルスLaura (3 years ago)
What about if you're a vegetarian? Do you have to give that up because the person eats meat?  :P
Derae Jarvis (3 years ago)
The getting into a relationship rather than dating casually in the American style is a fairly common thing in New Zealand too.
no no (2 years ago)
I live in New Zealand.
Vik G (3 years ago)
This was actually incredibly helpful. Just to become aware of those things. It is interesting how our viewpoint and the way we take things "natural" might just be something caused by media, movies, stereotypes... Tx for this recap!
shybabyxoxo (3 years ago)
I completely agree with your take on the perception of asian men! 100% Good job girl
mariashutter (3 years ago)
Maybe he likes her because she uses the same sort of make-up korean women use xD
awinbisa (1 year ago)
MyKoreanHusband it is an odd comment but it raises an interesting topic. I am from the UK and my wife is korean. when we visit Korea she gets a lot of criticism for not always wearing make-up and spending ages doing her hair. there is a massive tendency to the superficial in Korea, with Korean women being fairly critical of each other about weight and appearance. I would be interested in your thoughts on this?
MKH (2 years ago)
+mariashutter what an odd comment
Tris10Byul J. (3 years ago)
I really like the way you addressed this subject, very sensitive and mature. I feel bad that you had to walk on so many eggshells, but people are @$$... and will get offended over nothing. I have several friends from Korea and just being around the relationship dynamics I have seen several of the aspects you discuss in your video. I know the intercultural thing is rarely easy. I think the most annoying thing is people expect what they see on the dramas, and it's not that!  It really isn't. It's one thing to be attracted to the person, another to the culture, and another to try to be with someone because it is a fantasy.
vikulya78 (3 years ago)
Excellent, points, Nic! :-) One could say almost the same about Chinese guys - they are amazingly similar. Especially in regards to how seriously they take the idea of dating and marriage. Dating happens quickly and marriage happens quite quickly too :-D 
Inbo Sim (3 years ago)
You are so nice Nic! I really enjoyed this video and let me think about so many things with my girlfriend. I specially like the differences of culture and language can be more helpful for relationship since I experienced bad things with my ex-korean girl friends even though we had same language and similar culture. By the way, I will buy your book when I go back to Korea!  Thanks for you guys and all activities to think foreign people better about real Korean guys.
Lu (3 years ago)
just putting it out there - what if the foreigner, can't stomach korean food? haha (you only mentioned that it matters if the guy can't stomach our food but sort of like we just have to deal with korean food) sorry i'm just being picky haha but hmmm i only like some korean food, i would be polite and eat food if the person who prepared it was there still, but otherwise i'm not gona eat stuff i really can't stand once i've tried it ><
Widdy Winny (3 years ago)
I have many korean friends and your vids really helps me. Well, i'm your new subscriber ^^
ColetteBellaHaru (4 years ago)
You are such lovely girl!! very intelligent and open minded too :) I live in Daegu.  I would love to get to meet you guys one day ^^
Tina Zlt (4 years ago)
I agree with each point you said ! My bf is korean, we are living together in Japan for 2 years and we are considering to marry maybe..... next year ? :) we will maybe move in korea next year, depends how things work in Japan ! I`ve been to Korea and I love this country but I am little bit worried because I can`t speak korean, just a few words, and especially I don`t know what kind of work will I able to do there. and same otherwise, if we move in France... I don`t really want to live in France but I miss my family too much. so this is a big problem for me ! how did you guys decided to move in Korea and not stay in Australia instead ? It`s a big dilemma and a hard decision to make ahah
mtber75 (4 years ago)
Your husbands name is sofie?
Lord Lobov (3 years ago)
yes
Ennniii (4 years ago)
I'm dating a korean guy right now and i dont know... i feel like there really is something there but im so worried about his family. He himself says that he isn't really religious but his family is. He goes to church every sunday and takes part in extra activities that their church has. He says that his mother is making him do those things and he wont say no because it would be rude. I understand that of course but im just worried because im probably one of the LEAST religious people you can find. And i barely speak any korean so if i am to have a future with him, im worried that I'll offend his family and since i cant really communicate with them, they wont like me.. i did meet his parents once when he was still in finland and his family visited and it seemed like they liked me. But it's hard for me to tell because of the language barrier... but right now we're living in different countries so i dont cant do anything about those possible problems. Except learn korean, which i am doing right now. But this video was really helpful and I'm going to korea for the first time ever in december! I hope things will go smoothly.
Mari (1 month ago)
Ennniii that is awful. and like y’know what: respect everyone until they abuse their power. you have to out boundaries. being forced to do something against your will will only make you miserable. or if people mistreat you and think can get away with it? regardless of who it is, draw a line. you owe nothing to the world, you deserve respect. i hate when people abuse their power
Skye Hanna (11 months ago)
I actually feel with you on this. My boyfriend is also Korean and goes to Church every weekend, but doesn't do extra church activities. I think the best to do is just observe his behaviors and see where his religious stance in on taboo subjects and how strict he is with his religious values. I am also not very religious. It freaks me out sometimes when I think about it too much but i found this was my best way to cope.
Maru Chan (4 years ago)
I kind of have that same problem, my boyfriend is Christian and I'm Catholic. He goes to church every sunday with his family and does all the activities for his church and spends a lot of time with his church friends. I on the other hand am not very religious but I do like going to church and expect to have a catholic church wedding. If we ever decided to get married this might be a problem for us : / 
Quietninja Likedaehyun (4 years ago)
this is ignorant, you shouldnt have to consider anything just because you have a korean guy as a boyfriend or husband. koreans are just like other people. treat them like how you would treat anyone else. i cant believe someone as grown as you would be this ignorant, im not just talking about this video but your whole account. making a youtube account about your korean husband? really? also there are 50 million + koreans. do NOT generalise them as whole when the only thing they have in common is their korean-ness
Lenita A (1 year ago)
Quietninja Likedaehyun Your own comment is incredibly naive and ignorant! Korean culture, food, language, traditions, religion, mannerism, worldview, education system, govt, courting practices, etc etc are Vastly different from the Australian ones! Koreans do not just look different, they are different! And vise versa! Her videos are very Helpful in knowing what these differences are, how to understand them, cope with, adjust to, etc etc! She is sharing her experience and what she learned! Of course, there would be individual differences! Marrying someone of a very different culture is challenging and can be quite complicated! So, the more people know, learn and understand, the more helpful it will be navigating an inter-racial marriage!
sarakinskywalker (4 years ago)
There's a really great documentary that addresses the representation of Asian men in Hollywood. It's called The Slanted Screen. You should check it out, I think you'd enjoy it. I'm pretty sure it's on netflix.
Familia Yang - Moncada (4 years ago)
Love the video, I am actually latina (from Chile) but I have been living in Nz for a while (I also have Nz nacionality). I met my partner (korean, Jeju Island) here in NZ and immediately fell in love to each other. We been having some cultural differences but nothing that can not be solved by talking to each other.  Now we are appliying for partneship visa in NZ and is actually a very stressful time for both of us. We are also facing the fact that we are expecting our first child together (Im 5 month pregnant), my family took it well because in my culture is not necessary to be married to have children but the problem is that now the parents of my boyfriend (who is the eldest son) are expectang us to  get married as soon as possible.
Nina93 (4 years ago)
I really love taking a huge changes like being in a relationship with a foreigner(international R.S) ! That will open up your mind to things that you have never expected before or imagine, but In my point of view language is really a huge barrier that stands against each other i mean, how could i communicate with the one i love when there's no language that connect us together? Relationship based on communication more than physical relation! You have to express your self say things,chat and every thing!you need vocabulary here! How could that be possible when we cannot speak the language fluently? Im not trying to upset you or being against that but TBH its really difficult and stressful 😔
Babygirl6102 (3 years ago)
As a person who's very first love didn't speak the same language as them, I can truly say language should not dictate whether or not you love someone. Me and him were both very young, but with the English he did know he showed me how much he cared. Often times we would use translators and there would be many errors in his speech, but I honestly laughed and loved those mistakes. Or relationship was not about being physical with one another as it was about trying to understand one another. Our hearts and the bond we formed is what connected us. If you truly love each other you will find a way to communicate with each other, however, to exclude a possible future loves because you're afraid of the language barrier is sad....love freely no matter what language that person speaks that you may not. Loving him has helped me to see beyond language, and feel the beautiful person he was.
SaboteurEni (4 years ago)
My boyfriend is korean and I'm hungarian, and we've been living separated in our own countries for a year now. Your video was great and I found similarities, although I think that even hungarian and american or australian culture differs. Its really interesting though. Being in a relationship like this can be really really hard and not just because of cultural differences (that we still face sometimes after more than 2 years of dating), but because of how hard to settle down. Being hungarian its nearly impossible for me to find a job in Korea, but we still plan to settle down there. Its also really really hard to figure out how to do that (school, visas, financial and work issues). So I would say, if some of you really do get into an international relationship like this be prepared, that maybe until u can finally marry and settle down it will be painful and very hard. It's just hard to be separated and face things that would never come up in a "same country" relationship, but I guess it is true for any international relationships.  Thank you for your video though, its so nice to see that I'm not alone in this (I dont have any friend who can relate to me in it:D)
Bettina Puskás (1 year ago)
SaboteurEni Omg, how can u manage this? im Hungarian too. Not that im looking for a boyfriend, but this topic is interesting.
Melody Perez (4 years ago)
Not that I'm looking for a Korean guy. Honestly I didn't give two cents about k pop or dramas, just I simply met a Korean man and fell in love. Your advice really is helpful. Sometimes it's like Feel stuck and u don't know wether an argument is based purely on cultural differences. Just as a question how did your husband handle a more open society when it comes to all those taboo subjects.you know like sex, homosexuals, drugs. My boyfriend seems to be having the worse getting use to America's open society. I kinda just wanna ease it for him. Thanks a lot: ) wow this was long
Georgina Lewis (4 years ago)
I appreciate that you made this video. It explain things very well and was quite eye opening. I really enjoyed it.
Amy Romanov (4 years ago)
Do korean people believe in God? Or do korean Christians believe in God? (sorry for asking such a dumb question)
Sara Pintilei (10 months ago)
Amy Romanov it's not Dumb is really a good question actually ❤👍I really want to know that too :))
Bettina Puskás (1 year ago)
Amy Romanov Yes and no.
Nyc10128 (4 years ago)
You're very realistic and matter of fact that helps you see the obvious which we can't do b/c of our own stereotypes. Have you thought about going on college tours in the states?
kopec82 (4 years ago)
Thanks for this vídeos is great to know about ur experience to understand more about marring a Korean man. Can u talk about the religious part, I'm Christian and for I see there lots of Christian ppl in Korea but it's all mix with Confucianism. Do u have any problems in this department with ur hubby or with his family? Thank you.
kopec82 (4 years ago)
thanks keep the hard work :)
kopec82 (4 years ago)
ok that's why i ask u to do a video to elaborated more about it cause i dont know anything and i want to understand and learn know about it, i wasn't trying to be disrespectful.
Catalina Park (4 years ago)
Hey Nic, awesome video! But I have a question, my mom is Filipina and my dad is American. How different do you think your relationship would have been if your roles were vice versa? My parents are really against me dating an Asian man unless he is half white like me. Do you think that because you are a western woman, and mr. Gwon is an Asian man you are both more open minded?
cree (3 years ago)
+Catalina Park i'm really don't understand people who is against one or other race, because not the race or mix is important. If you meet your soul mate, a person who makes you happy, what is different. of course sometimes when we choosing some region, country we like that region feature. Like i am from north east Europe and i am and my country are low tempered and i would like to have my boyfriend who has feature like mine, my country and i really know that for me don't fit guy who are hot tempered like in south Europe... but again you can't be so straight, there is no just black and white, there are more colors and lots of exceptions. If 2 people from different culture are not open minded, then there is no future
Alison Smith (4 years ago)
I just wanted to tell you how well thought out & how well spoken I thought this video was.  Also had a bit of a girls chat feel to it, which I really enjoyed.  Thanks for all your & Mr. Gwon's hard work & sharing your life with us!
FlyToTheRain (4 years ago)
I feel really passionate about how Asians are portrayed in western media and culture, and whenever I mention Kpop to someone who's not familiar with it, I go in with the mindset of trying to change their perspective about it. It bothers me when I listen to Kpop and all I can get out of people is "but they're Asian, and they're singing in Korean". Well excuse me, should I be apologizing for being Caucasian and speaking English? I try to let it go most of the time because it's often in jest, and I'm also aware that most people have a narrow minded perspective about different cultures. I can still get pretty frustrated when I'm trying my best to expose all the best sides of Asian culture to show that they are humans like everyone else, and they won't budge an inch in any direction.
Gookje Famly (4 years ago)
SO on point! Soooosoosoooo on point haha. But you forgot to mention one SUPER important thing. I don't know if this applies to you or not but for others who may be in the same situation as me, if you are dating/going to marry a Korean man who is the first born son or the only son you should know that you will be living with his parents at some point in the future. I'm sure some families no longer do this but I think for the most part this is a tradition that still stands. This goes along with what you said about the whole Romeo & Juliet thing not applying in this case but I just thought it's worth a mention specifically. So if you're dating a first born/only Korean son, you should probably make sure you have a good relationship with your in-laws in the likely possibility you will one day become roomies! LOL
Makoto's World (2 days ago)
Gookje Famly And if U just married and wanna live on ur own?💀
Gookje Famly (4 years ago)
+MyKoreanHusband  It is quite the topic on it's own huh? Haha. I look forward to hearing about you guys' experiences & thoughts on it!
moreshige (4 years ago)
I'm a Korean-american who grew up as a minority in the USA I'm not offended and I wholly support you talking about differences between Koreans and non-Koreans.
James Kim (4 years ago)
You are a smart lady, we need more girl like you in this world, so that the world becomes more peaceful.
Persephone Basilissa (4 years ago)
So, we in America have grown up with Ben Franklin's saying: "Early to bed and early to rise makes a man healthy, wealthy and wise." And many of us are born morning people. I've heard that many Korean people work late hours and that their night culture is very active. I'm curious: are many Korean people chronically sleep-deprived? If so, have you seen how it may affect their physical or mental health? Their ability to work effectively? Is there any kind of public campaign to get people to sleep more, as there is here in America? Would Koreans generally say that Ben Franklin was wrong in this case?
sleepychibi (4 years ago)
I'm so glad you made this video. My fiancee and I are the same way and sometimes it's hard for other people to understand how we work through the cultural differences. ESPECIALLY the confucianism. Korea is the MOST confucian oriented east-asian country and even subconsciously Koreans act that way. I hope to see you both when I visit him this summer!
Ys Kim (2 years ago)
+jellyjay I think it's because of communism policy. Although they have confusion culture, most powerful thing in recent history is communism.
jellyjay (4 years ago)
ironic that even china, the country that came up with confucianism, is way more gender-equal than korea lol i'm korean btw, so i'm not lying
tiptip1111 (4 years ago)
I like your video ! You're so right . I'm going to move to Korea soon and marry to my Korean boyfriend.
PokemonSuperNinja (4 years ago)
Thank you for making this video! I have noticed a lot of these things in my own boyfriend and our relationship as well and I really appreciate you educating people about these things. 
Mia Aiecha (4 years ago)
Thanks for the informative video ^^ this is what I really need at this moment! You post it at right time.. ^^ I need to consider about these and I am thinking and keep thinking..hope I can make a wise decision for me and my boyfriend~
Glint On Glass (4 years ago)
I absolutely loved this video, Nic. You're so open about telling us your experiences and giving us really good advice. I especially liked when you mentioned challenging each other's ideas about housing, society, ect. The generational differences between your husband and his father got me interested. I think making another video with Sophie about those would be extremely helpful! Just a suggestion ^_^ Ever since I first got into Asian cultures (starting with Japan then Korea) my mind has opened up so much about how society might tell you one thing while the reality is completely different. It's given me such a wider world view and I think it's awesome that people like you and Hugh are sharing your experiences and challenges in such a positive way!
JN87 (4 years ago)
Well said! Thank you! And yes, immigration officials are totally indifferent to the fact that you love each other. And yes, visas/resident cards are very stressful and they ask for such a huge~~~~~~~ amount of documents and paperwork. and it's expensive too. But I so~~~ love my Korean hubby and he's worth it~^^
Damarys Zambrano (4 years ago)
What you said about people having slightly different personalities when they speak their native language. My mom is more out going and easy going when she speaks in Spanish. She is not a completely different person though, just like you said.
SushiFairy (4 years ago)
Thank you for this video :) I think I read somewhere that we subconsciously change our personalities a bit (or for some people it might be a lot, but then I'm sure they would be conscious of that) when we speak in another language. It's so weird and cool!
Dizzaton (4 years ago)
Paused the video in order to comment on when you mentioned personality difference when speaking Korean rather than English- when I dated a Korean guy before, this happened to me but in quite an extreme way! In English he was so positive, but as I learned more Korean I discovered he was sooo negative. The disparity threw me when I realised it. Just thought I'd share that; it hasn't been the same difference with other Koreans I've met, they've been pretty consistant in their language use :)
AegyoShooter (4 years ago)
Me and my oppa are a couple for 247 days now. We decided quiet early that we'll marry. I live in Germany, and here it's a big deal for everyone (obviously)...I get a lot of negativ comments when I say that my boyfriend is living in korea. My family is half supporting, half slapping in my face with their ignorance. I apply for a working holiday visa so we can be together one year, before we decide what comes next. If I don't get that visa, I will apply for a language school programm in University. I know it may be hard for other people to understand this, but I don't do things naively or unprepared! And this is what is most upsetting for me... Early this year I met him for the first time, and we had a lot of trouble even tough I know a lot about korean society and behavoir. But this made us grew together even more. I can't think of my life without him. I just hope everything will work out. Thank u guise for giving me such a good example of an interracial relatioship. Btw....my oppa loves singing the Frozen OST too...xD Fighting!
4볼빨간 (1 year ago)
HyunAAppreciate // Me too 😂
Claudia Nhiri (1 year ago)
AegyoShooter alles Gute euch 2. ❤
洁琼周 (1 year ago)
AegyoShooter // I cringed while reading this, I'm sorry.
Aishey89 (1 year ago)
AegyoShooter I have similar situation right now..thanks for sharing ur story!
kssgpv (3 years ago)
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jordanian14 (4 years ago)
I only can eat my culture food ... I live in America n can't eat their food ... I would cook my own food ... I can't even eat my mother food... I got disgusted easily... I tried Korean food it wasn't good !!
Dani Rae (4 years ago)
Thank you for the information. My boyfriend and I met online and even when we met in person my boyfriend didn't tell his friends how we really met for fear that they would judge him. Even today (3 years on) he hasn't told most of his friends, only his close friends and family whereas I've been very open from day one. I think other people's perceptions of our relationship is important to him but it isn't really important to me. Edit: Incase anyone is curious, my boyfriend and I are now living together in Scotland so long distance relationships can work :)
Deer Wind JM (1 year ago)
Dani Rae I also met my special someone online. He told his friends that we met online but I cannot bring myself to admit it as well. I'm terrified of how other people might perceive our relationship; specially my relatives and close friends.
Dani Rae (4 years ago)
+Karla P. Hi! It's good to see we follow the same youtubers! :)
Karla P. (4 years ago)
It's you Dani! Your fellow korean journey blog in wordpress, Karla of noshortcutstokorean
TheDreamGirlInCity (4 years ago)
i was so scared in the beginning when my boyfriend said i love you second time we meet. felt like i was like in a jail... but i'm better now ^^.
PrincessZeldaGirl (4 years ago)
Thank you so much for this. Honestly. I have been dating a Korean guy for almost 2 years now. We are about to face these kinds of questions about marriage like you mentioned, because its reached the point we have to either break up or get married so he can either stay in the US or I move to Korea. Im meeting his parents and family in Korea in the next few months and ill keep everything you said in mind. Anyway, thank you. I agree with everything you said about language not being as big an issue as people think. I communicate better with my boyfriend now than I ever did with past boyfriends. Mostly because like you said, we are so careful about interpreting things correctly. We don't let misunderstandings happen because we expect them.  Also at the other people in the comments, lol my boyfriend is also much older than me. Maybe it is a Korean thing, im not sure. Hes 9 years older than me but I rarely notice it. He seems to think western people emotionally mature faster but I don't know if I believe that. I just think it just works in our case because we are really good together. If it isnt negatively affecting the relationship (especially in terms of power dynamics) then age isn't an issue.
DreamingKoreanBallad (4 years ago)
very good informative video - thank you :D question: what program or books are you using to learn Korean? I've wanted to learn for years and tried and failed - I've used pimsleur before - too much of a business like approach so I dropped it - no one to practice with so I'd forget things I'd learned fast. btw, is there any way you know of how to apply and get into a Korean Language university? and career wise do you know of a good type of schooling to look into in order to find a job that accepts white people in Korea? do you just go for East Asian Studies majoring in Korean or are there other job fields I could look into?....I really want to go to Korea and marry a Korean man who was born and raised in Korea. thanks!
Karla P. (4 years ago)
visit twochois dot com for a large selection of korean learning books. I highly recommend Korean Grammar in Use series.
missyannalee (4 years ago)
Thanks for this video! I was able to really relate to most of it. Actually today is my 200th day with my Korean boyfriend. My visa is ending soon so we have to make a decision pretty quick actually... I think I'm lucky as even though he lived in korea his whole life, he's still very opened minded. In the first month there were a few misunderstandings but each time he'll ask me 'is this a culture differnce?' And if I said yes then he'll try to understand and we'll talk it through. Because we are an international couple, there's so many things to think about our future and its not as easy as it seems. Lucky for me my mum came to korea last month and she absolutely adores him! I'm not sure if u remember but I posted before that my Vietnamese parents dislike korea from all the bad stories they've heard. I haven't met his family yet but they all know about me. Even his aunts and cousins. Even though everything is good at the moment, I don't know if we should live in korea or Australia. What about visas? How much longer should i stay here? Its such a hard decision.. hopefully time will tell
HaruHaru94 (4 years ago)
I have a question on age differences. What is Korea's view on age differences between couples? My boyfriend and i have about a 10 year age difference, in America it's seen as a bit odd, but how about in Korea? From what he's told me, his friends are completely fine with it, and so are his parents. Are there big age gaps in korea?
jellyjay (4 years ago)
i'm gonna be really honest. in korea, yes, just like here, a big age difference is NOT welcomed. it doesn't matter if it's the husband or the wife. i'm glad that your boyfriend's parents are chill with it, but most koreans are  very shocked when it's 10 years apart.
HaruHaru94 (4 years ago)
+Jinseo Lim oh i know~ It doesn't matter to me, i'm just curious 
화랑 (4 years ago)
It should not matter my husband n i are 13 yrs apart lol im 24 he is 37 lol
HaruHaru94 (4 years ago)
This video is so helpful! Thank you (: I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 200 days and i'll be meeting him in less than a year~

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