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What to Look for in a Christian Guy | Christian Dating Advice

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Growing up in church, pretty much the only dating advice I heard was: "Make sure you marry a Christian." But what no one told me is that Christians can also be crazy! So today I want to share 7 things to look for in a guy (plus a bonus tip from my hubby James). And comment below: What else would you add to this list? Love, Tiffany Dawn IS HE RIGHT FOR YOU? This ebook goes through 25 questions that are SO important to consider before you decide to get more serious with your boyfriend! Check it out here: www.tiffanydawn.thinkific.com TODAY'S TIPS: 1. Faith: Are you on the same page? (But remember, he might express his faith differently than you do.) 2. How does he treat people? 3. How does he respond to correction? 4. Do you enjoy the little things in life together? 5. Is he responsible (and wise with money)? 6. Are you able to talk through hard things and disagreements? 7. Are you drawn to each other? 8. THAT'S A SURPRISE AT THE END OF THE VIDEO!! (Thanks, James...😘) IF YOU WANT MORE GIRL TALK... 😍 ...I've got four awesome resources for you! 1️⃣ "The Insatiable Quest for Beauty" is a book about my struggles with body image and an eating disorder, and learning how to like the person God made me to be. 2️⃣ "Boycrazy: And how I ended up single and (mostly) sane" shares my pre-marriage years. It's written like a novel, but also includes the things I learned about singleness and dating, and includes discussion/reflection questions with some lines for journaling! 3️⃣ My "Bible Reading Plan" takes you through the book of John in 16 weeks! It incorporates reading short sections, listening to whole chapters, journaling once a week, and occasionally watching The Bible Project videos to get the big picture. 4️⃣ My CD "This Is Who I Am" has 11 songs I wrote, all based on the journey God has taken me on! Check them all out in my online store!👇 www.tiffanydawn.net/store LET'S KEEP IN TOUCH ALL WEEK! 💕 Instagram: @tiffanydawniqb Facebook: tiffanydawniqb Email: [email protected] Website & Books: www.tiffanydawn.net NEW VIDEOS EACH TUESDAY!! 😍
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Neela Delphine (2 days ago)
I really needed this! Thank you ☺️
johnny suh (9 days ago)
I love watching this girls videos like wow. She’s just everything I’ve been searching for, she’s decent just like me and other Christian women. But she’s just the best 💖😋
Mai Muramoto (9 days ago)
This is awesome, thank you!!! The guy I like has most of these qualities and the others unknown (conflict and correction). This list will be helpful. ❤❤❤
Hotel CharliHill (10 days ago)
If you ACTUALLY love jesus, you will be a GREAT husband. It's impossible to be a horrible husband if you love God. 1john4:7-8
D B (24 days ago)
Tip number 1: "Christians can be crazy" 🤣
Ash Ley (26 days ago)
I'm asking myself all these questions..about myself lol. I need Jesus
Thump Musician (27 days ago)
why do you think 2 Corinthians 6:14 is in any way/context talking about marriage ?? the entire chapter has nothing to do with marriage
creamcolouredponies x (29 days ago)
Snuggle yaassss James :)
G Dh L (29 days ago)
Helpful and realistic...and cute at the end 😀😉
Anna Hutto (1 month ago)
Loved this video, Tiffany! ❤️ Thanks for doing what you do!
Thehumanbrain a (1 month ago)
What I'm I doing here? I'm an atheist. Kinda sucks that all the good looking girls are Christian.
soccerchick9841 (1 month ago)
“Just because he’s Christian doesn’t mean he’s husband material” THIS. Just because a guy says he’s christian doesn’t mean anything.
Tony Rowan (1 month ago)
Please singles - don't get married!
xxmamaxxable (1 month ago)
No 8 cracked me up!! You guys are the cutest! Great nuggets in this video, thank you!
TheBlackkBird (1 month ago)
I like you... Thanks!
Kay R (1 month ago)
She’s like the pure and unproblematic version of Girl Defined
alphant1 (1 month ago)
Bunch of 34 year old cat ladies watching this video
Judith (2 months ago)
you both 😍 so down to earth en funny 😂 awesome
Princess Leai (2 months ago)
good thing I like to snuggle^^
Charity Ann (2 months ago)
Virgin Islands... no pun intended.
Emmanuel Rivera (2 months ago)
I warrior has no time to snuggle...i guess im gonna be single for the rest of my life then. Lol
Brianna Mckenzie (3 months ago)
I really love this. I just started watching your videos! These are amazing statements. I also believe you should identify if it's easy to have a conversation with the person and if it's easy to be yourself. That's what you should look for as well ♥️
First name Last name (3 months ago)
You are a great role model x
Heavenly Grace (3 months ago)
Such a great video!!
Johnny Napoletano Jr (3 months ago)
Money money money money...that's all woman wants looks . Status and resources us all these women want. 1st thing about Jesus is a nonce is non sequitur. They're lying about that. It's the way you look. Resources among you have. You can be a jerk d********. And these women will go all over you because you got the resources and money or least they thank you do You want to sit down and talk to In the 1st place. Women are all feelings emotions I have no minds. They were may for sex and having children that was it. The rest is b.s.
Jesus IsLord (3 months ago)
This should be called who not to look for in a christian girl.
Phellippe Silva (3 months ago)
Hi Tiffany (my apologies) I am praying this Very moment to find "someone like you"
Phellippe Silva (3 months ago)
Hi Tiffany (my apologies) I am praying this Very moment to find "someone like you"
JustJake (3 months ago)
As a guy, I'm surprised that you didn't mention hygiene and grooming. Its important that both girls and guys have great grooming habits, if not. Then I will have to pass :/
JustJake (2 months ago)
+Pancake Batter well i can see in your name why you value it so much XD. But yea, we need to be educated on not just brushing our teeth, but using a good facial washing regime+ moisturizer, as well as the hair. And on the mention of hair, guys need to learn to shave some of that back,neck and trim armpit hair, its getting gross. Some say that it isn't masculine, i say they are foolish. Thats just my 2 cents.
Pancake Batter (2 months ago)
JustJake ..ughh YES! Like scraping white bad breath filth off Tongue and flossing daily... it’s been a paranoia I have because honestly... many guys are nasty and don’t exfoliate or have a clean mouth so I really hope if it’s God’s will for me to get married, that it’s an ocd clean man w excellent hygiene to my standards. I hope i don’t sound shallow for this but I really can’t help it. It’s Partly why I used to be a lesbian since women are cleaner by far _on average_ but praise God he removed that sin from my life
JR G (3 months ago)
It is so important that Christians stick to Christians.
Dunia Ipenza (3 months ago)
Haha i loved number 8
Abigail (4 months ago)
I have no idea how I survived without Tiffany's videos
Clarissa N (4 months ago)
Hi Tiffany, I’m a new subscriber and I’ve been so blessed by your videos. I think I’ve watched almost all your Christian dating advice videos! It has helped to understand myself better, to know what to look for in a dating relationship and how to progress from there. Thank you for choosing to live a Christ-centered life! Continue making these awesome videos! God bless you! :)
Jason Tlaige (4 months ago)
I'm right here!
Elijah Uribe (4 months ago)
My instagram is @elijah.j.uribe...you can ask me any of these questions. Lol not being cocky, just want to meet other Christians, that i can make friends with.
Miriam S (4 months ago)
Tiffany, you're so beautiful and I love love love your videos!! thank you so much! God bless ❤
Alica Lina Urban (4 months ago)
You make extremely good points, no matter whether in a religious context or not. Really great video:)
Amanda Chukwudumebi Ikem (4 months ago)
Thank you so much
Krista Stearnes (5 months ago)
Where was this 7 years ago...I definitely wouldn't be divorced now if I had even 1 or 2 of these tips. I married a Christian but he was "crazy" and abusive...
Kassie West (5 months ago)
So beyond true!! Once I got saved I felt so "protected" and thought it meant any guy I dated who shared my faith who I met through Church would be an amazing person who treated me like a queen!.... I could not have been any further from the truth, the biggest A Hole I ever dated was a supposed "great church going Christian guy" he trash talked all his past relationships, had no long term friendships or fam relationships, treated waitstaff like trash, treated women like commodities, and I looked past it because I thought I must be mis-interpreting seeing as he was "a great Christian guy" Thankfully that relationship taught me to look for a man who shares my passions, who has lifelong friends (ie a sign when people enter his life they actual want to stick around), a man who valued women, a man who cared about people! It was the most awful relationship of my life, but it led me to seeking out and recognizing the love of my life, Being with an absolute jerk will, atleast hopefully, teach you what is actually important in a relationship! It made me 100x more thankful for my husband when I found him because I knew how rare and valuable a man like him was!!!!
Dark Spell Caster (5 months ago)
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Louise Attzs (5 months ago)
5:58 hey! I went into debt because of video games ☹️
Hellen Achieng (5 months ago)
You guys are so natural and amazing. Am blessed with your tips.
Kristine Ellis (5 months ago)
I appreciate your videos so much. You are truly able to get these vital points to us, with genuine honesty. I feel that girls and women are in need of this information especially since we may not have had great information growing up. And if you add that to all the times we doubt ourselves, it can get pretty crazy and confusing at times. 😜 it's so true about the "fake" person who has their "act" together at church, but isn't really showing their true self. Knowing what to look for and not being afraid to ask the tough questions are definitely so important. Thank you for another awesome video.
Mike Petty (5 months ago)
Great tips. :)
Its common sense through the lord.
Madison Knowles (5 months ago)
6:10 ME TOO!!
Amy Thomson (6 months ago)
Just came across this gold nugget...thank you for sharing! Would it be possible for James to do one from a guy's perspective? Like what you should look for in a girl? 😁
Tiffany Dawn (5 months ago)
Now that's a cool idea! I think a lot of items are pretty similar for guys and for girls, but maybe I could get a few guys to say what they think is important to look for in a girl. I'll have to think about this more! Thanks for the idea! :)
EricSmyth14 (6 months ago)
sad days for those that marry and don't want the snuggles
Renni Bai (6 months ago)
The video game part though,😂😂😂
cocoa ok (6 months ago)
A guy who respect you and listen.
Certiixv (6 months ago)
Why am I watching this I’m a Muslim lmao 😂
Pancake Batter (2 months ago)
Certiixv / Hey, Don’t take this the wrong way, I Just wanted to share the most valuable information of our life time with you! 😄 *GOD'S PLAN OF SALVATION* *Hear God's Word* Romans 10:17 *Believe the Gospel* John 20:30-31 *Repent of Your Sins* Luke 13:3 *Confess Faith in Jesus* Romans 10:9-10 *Be Baptized* Acts 2:38 *Live Faithfully Unto Death* Revelation 2:10 *For the time is coming when people will not endure sound teaching, but having itching ears they will accumulate for themselves teachers to suit their own passions, and will turn away from listening to the truth and wander off into myths.* 2 Timothy 4:3 But I say unto you, That every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judgment. Matthew 12:36 And as it is appointed unto men once to die, but after this the judgment: So Christ was once offered to bear the sins of many; and unto them that look for him shall he appear the second time apart from sin unto salvation. [Hebrews 9:27-28] The Lord is not slack concerning his promise as many count slackness but is long suffering towards us not wishing that any perish but that all should come to repentance. [2 Peter 3:9]
Tiffany Dawn (5 months ago)
So glad to have you here! :):)
Jerricka Funk (6 months ago)
This is a channel I’ve been looking for!!! I love it and I’ve only seen three videos❣️
Tiffany Dawn (5 months ago)
Yay!! That makes me so happy!! :):)
Jennifer Fraser (6 months ago)
Love your videos! Definitely helps us single girls out here
Camillie Collins (6 months ago)
Sooooo good!!!!
Amanda Derby (6 months ago)
can u be my big sister?
OffTheCreamyCrack (6 months ago)
Hahaha!!!! Number 8 IS very important! 😂😂😂😂
Randy G (6 months ago)
All very good points! Especially your point about how some church goers can be “crazy” (I even hesitate to call certain people in church “Christian”, as going to church all your life is obviously no guarantee that you will start acting like Christ.). Even if someone is a sincere Christian, and is really trying to display spiritual fruit (rather than just acting like a religious nut), they still might have different convictions than you about certain things, and that could lead to friction (read Romans chapter 14 in its entirety if you don’t know what I am talking about.). For example, you two might have a different idea about whether or not smoking tobacco is a sin or not, and that could cause arguments if one of you smokes. What about, is it OK to see “R” rated movies? Is dancing OK, or does it promote lustful thoughts? Is it a sin to eat delicious food (indulging the senses)? Is it disrespectful to God to wear casual clothes to Sunday morning services? Should women wear pants, or is that immodest? What about wearing shorts, or hats indoors (1 Cor. 11:7)? What about drinking wine or beer in moderation; is that OK, or is it awful? Simply going to the same church is no guarantee that you will agree on all of these issues, and some people are quite hard-headed and controlling about this, as they see EVERYTHING as a black or white issue, and there is no nuance. What if you go to see a movie that your spouse thinks is evil, and you argue about it for weeks (sounds like more of a control freak, if he or she does this, rather than someone who is really concerned with your spiritual health). These issues and arguments happen, and the arguments might get worse after you have children.
Tiffany Dawn (6 months ago)
So true!! Great insights!
Berty Bug (7 months ago)
2/3rds way through the vid. i absolutely adore the relationship you have with james, i feel great knowing about genuine love in this world! i really hope that your marriage and even the friendship you have with him stays strong. much love <3
Tiffany Dawn (6 months ago)
Awwww, thank you!! <3 <3
Nick la logique (7 months ago)
why every christian have something to say about video games
Tiffany Dawn (6 months ago)
LOL 😂👌
Yuliya Lyube (7 months ago)
Loved this video! All of these qualities are very important but are never talked about, so thanks for putting them all together into 1 video 😘
7033Joe (7 months ago)
Just know that the bible has zero verses as to how to date. It only talks about how to be a God fearing husband and wife. It's not bad to have standards. You can have millions of standards. But just make those standards realistic and biblical. Example, I often heard that women (men are guilty of this also). Say that they want their potential spouse candidate to absolutely love the Lord. I'm confident with what the bible tells me, and I don't even have to know who is reading to know that you don't love the Lord, completely. I'm going to pick on myself to explain. Jesus said that if we love him, we will keep his commandments. The bible also says that none is righteous, no, not one. There is areas in my life that I'm still disobedient and sins that I still give into. We are a work in progress as long as we are willing to yield to the Lord. Including your potential spouse. With me my only standard is that they're born again. With my intention being that I want to pursue the Lord with my best female friend. So there is the unrealistic expectation. You want your spouse to be flawless. You want your marriage to be trial and tribulation free. You have a responsibility Christian to know the Word. Also to test the spirits.
Mac Burrton (7 months ago)
There is no god!
Rosa (7 months ago)
thank you so much dear....
Childof God (8 months ago)
Lol James😂😂
JAY BOY (8 months ago)
3:26dam so your basiclly watxhing him looking for flaws
JAY BOY (8 months ago)
1:30 true. many Christians are former pimps whores drug users dealers criminals etc etc
JAY BOY (8 months ago)
1:18 reminds me of jerry Seinfeld where he dated Someone just like him in this case everything u wanted in someone only to find out he hates him self.always to to be very different since opposites attack
URHO TM (8 months ago)
Tiffany Dawn: I want to love Jesus with all my heart... Me: Subscribed.
URHO TM (8 months ago)
Hello! This is awesome! Thank you Lord for this video.
Thanks for this Tiffany! I am single girl and I grew up in Christian family and I am studying in a bible school..So I have a question. I think I am in love with a guy 2, years now, who is a year older than me, he wants to become a pastor and blah...He is such a good person! But I think he has a little bit changed (a little bit "cold" or maybe it's my idea)since he went for his army obligations and he is finishing by the end of May. Do you think it's wise for a young girl like me, 24-year-old, to talk to him or not yet? Thank you so much...God bless you! From Greece with love...
Tiffany Dawn (6 months ago)
Oh that's such a great question - and how awesome that you're in Bible school! :) I don't know that there's necessarily a right or wrong answer; I think it's whatever you decide to do. It could be that he's more become distant because army training can be so intense, and far away. But I think as time passes, especially after he's home, you might be able to get a sense of whether or not he seems interested in hanging out and at least friendship. I don't know if that helps at all?
Claudia Okyere-Fosu (9 months ago)
😂 lovely advice, thank you 😊
Evelina Lemon (9 months ago)
The snuggle is real!!!😂😂 gotta love James.
Tiffany Dawn (8 months ago)
He just cracks me up!!😂
Bailee Liebe (9 months ago)
I love this chick!
I'm WORTH IT! (9 months ago)
AMEN!!! TY Tiffany! "Don't forget to look for those things in yourself too" BOOM! I said in my book "You have to be what you want in life!" I appreciate you girl! PS--THAT IS SO FUNNY! "See if he's raising his hands in church" haha I've found that EVERY man is a Christian...CAUSE I AM THAT FOOLISH TO BELIEVE IT! You say "I"m Christian" then I'm supposed to say "GREAT LET'S HANG OUT AND EVENTUALLY DISOBEY THE BIBLE AND TAKE OUR CLOTHES OFF WITHOUT BEING MARRIED!" haha
7033Joe (7 months ago)
In other words. It's always good to ask, "Is he good enough for me." It's also better to ask, "Am I good enough for him." Philippians 2:4 Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.
Tiffany Dawn (9 months ago)
Love this!!
Nneoma (9 months ago)
Thanks so much! Blessings x
susanne scheper (9 months ago)
Amazing list. I agree 100%
freddyflakes (10 months ago)
These are very good tips and causes me to think outside the box that I never thought to think of!
Jennifer Jones (10 months ago)
This is the best you guys! Thank you for telling the truth I feel like so many Christian couples will just say what they think they are supposed to say about certain topics instead of being really honest. This is the first youtube talk that I have seen where a Christian girl tells the TRUTH. I am a new fan subscribed ;))))))
Tiffany Dawn (9 months ago)
Oh yay! I'm so glad you enjoyed it!! :)
May Matson (10 months ago)
thank you for the tips its really true ❤️
Tholwethu ! (11 months ago)
I don't like snuggling though, am i weird?
Tiffany Dawn (9 months ago)
Not weird at all! Some people don't like it! :)
Darby (11 months ago)
What to look for in a Guy... Jesus.
IG juniorjm93 (11 months ago)
Blessings, mi Instagram juniorjm93.
Just A Cover (11 months ago)
Look at the size of his bible. Nothing else matters.
V. Acifra (11 months ago)
This was a great video! I just did something similar on my channel and now I'm thinking I want to do something else more in depth. Awesome job!
d Faith (1 year ago)
Tiffany I enjoy your videos! I Would like to see a video on how to be a submissive wife when you been on your own for so long .
Tiffany Dawn (11 months ago)
Oh, what a good question! We actually recently did a video on submission--not sure if you've seen it yet? But it's our perspective on that verse, and maybe it can help in some way! :) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_z3qb4ILEW4&t=7s
Liz C. (1 year ago)
Great advice that's exactly what they teach me at my church.
Hasan Google (1 year ago)
What if he treats people well infront of you but does not when you are not with him.How can you know?
Tiffany Dawn (1 year ago)
Ohhh, that's such a great question!! I think to some extent you can find out from how other people talk about him. So with my husband James, I would often meet people who knew who James was, and they would tell me they felt so loved by him, or that he was a great guy. I think the person's reputation can often speak to how they treat people, if that makes sense. I hope that helps in some way!
KO Video (1 year ago)
Girl you are ON POINT with all these points!!!!! Wish I had these videos when I was growing up!
Tiffany Dawn (1 year ago)
Thanks so much--this is really encouraging! :):)
A C (1 year ago)
These are great!! I love your tips ☺️ My husband and I joke about me always wanting to snuggle too! Before his second deployment he bought me a little golden retriever to snuggle with while he’s gone! Let me tell you, it helps! Now obviously when he’s home we have each other and it’s great but he will joke around sometimes when I want to snuggle and he will just look at our pup and say, “that’s why I bought him” 😋
Renee Fries (11 months ago)
That Christian Teacher This is so sweet! 💕
Tiffany Dawn (1 year ago)
That's so cute he bought you a golden retriever for while he's deployed! Awwww!! What a great hubby!
Thank you so much for helping others on this subject! Your experience and enthusiasm is wonderful :)
M'Lynn Tillery (1 year ago)
Before you got married during your single years did you date or were you just strictly single during that time? I’m growing and strengthening my relationship with God and I’ve been single for a year. I went on several dates for about 4 months or so and since I have just been focusing on me and my relationship with God. While I know I still have a lot of growing to do, does that mean I should say no to dates?
Tiffany Dawn (1 year ago)
What an amazing question! I think this is something each person needs to answer for themselves, but personally, I went on a lot of dates. I only had three boyfriends before my husband, but I would go on dates with all different guys who would ask me, if they were a person I was interested in getting to know. I made a video about that here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_wnGLuCUpHI -- oh and also this video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N28FvRhvk9E&t=374s -- I hope this can help in some way! :)
Hannah C. (1 year ago)
I have a life-altering question. Are cuddling and snuggling the same thing?!?!!!!! Break this down for me people
Tiffany Dawn (1 year ago)
HAHAHAHAHAHA this is AMAZING. I have no idea!! I tend to think they are the same...but are they??
Eevu Poijärvi (1 year ago)
James is awesome 😁😂and he's so right! I wanna snuggle all the time too 😂 and so are you Tiffany, love your videos! They've really been a blessing to me. Greetings from Finland 😊
Tiffany Dawn (1 year ago)
Awww, hi to you in Finland!💕 Thank you so much for this encouragement! :):)
Tamera Osaro (1 year ago)
Snuggling is a plus haha! Lol don’t judge me guys, I’m a hugger! LOVED this video Tiffany, thank you for sharing all this useful info to us, really put a smile on my face knowing I can continue in my season of growth. So important to be working on ourselves ❤️🙏🏾🌹
Tiffany Dawn (1 year ago)
Hahaha I love that you're a hugger!!😂👍 I'm so glad you enjoyed the video!
Paige Hickey (1 year ago)
I ended a relationship in it's early stages because of number 7. I was wondering if it was the right decision but this video confirmed in my heart that it was, thank you!
Tiffany Dawn (1 year ago)
I'm so glad!! It's so easy to second-guess ourselves after ending a relationship. I'm glad you had the courage to do so though when you felt it wasn't right. :) <3
Anna Potts (1 year ago)
I speak sign language so i get the 6 thing lol. I do the same thing 😂 what did James do as a job?
Tiffany Dawn (1 year ago)
No way!!! That's so awesome you speak sign language!!😍 And James works in commercial insurance actually--he insures lots of churches, rescue missions, non-profits, and businesses. It's pretty cool!
Ashley Marucci (1 year ago)
Snuggle good thing I have a guy who does !!
Tiffany Dawn (1 year ago)
That's awesome!! I never knew I needed someone who would snuggle me😂 but I totally did!!
Victoria Ullrich (1 year ago)
I really liked number 1 and 7. I feel like those are applicable to something I'm going through now with a guy. I specifically liked how you said he can worship differently and show his faith differently. But your other tips were so good that I'm now going to write them down to keep them in mind. Also, loved number 8! Literally was laughing out loud haha.
Tiffany Dawn (1 year ago)
Hahaha I know, James makes me laugh so much. I'm so glad this video could encourage and speak to you in your situation right now!
Priscilla Sopt (1 year ago)
Love the editing on this video! And also, great and practical tips!! Thank you! ❤️😁
debbie wilder (1 year ago)
I see you have a CD I'd love to hear you sing on one of these
Tiffany Dawn (1 year ago)
That's a great idea! My dad just said that the other day too! I'll have to see if James can lug my big keyboard down from the attic/loft area. 😂😍

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